Dear Godly Single Ladies

Dear Godly Single Ladies,

Don’t block your blessings by professing you are Godly with your outward actions but are destroying relationships by your outwardly ungodly words.

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What do I mean by that?

Why get up, get dressed, look presentable and act like you are God’s daughter by being philanthropic, serving the homeless or greeting the sick at hospital BUT tear down your fellow brother in words because he’s trying to “holla” at you? Where is YOUR patience, gentleness, meekness, kindness, long suffering and self control then?

Stop tearing down your brother in Christ simply because he had the COURAGE to try to talk to your mean, unkind, stuck up self.

Yes I said it.

If you aren’t interested in him, let him down easy. He is STILL your brother in Christ. IF he isn’t in Christ, your kindness and gentleness may draw him into the Kingdom. You don’t want to drive him away from God just because you don’t want to “talk” to him and mean mug just to prove your point.

How can you say with your actions you want a Godly relationship but with your words you tear down and degrade a man who may not meet your every expectation?

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What do I mean by that?

You allow a man to pursue you on a surface level but then you proceed to use the meanest, ugliest words you can find to bring up and describe his every character flaw and failures which displease YOU. As if you are perfect, with your persnickety self.

Yeah, I went there.

Adam was not complete again until Eve, his rib was put back in place. What would it have been like if Adam said, “Now that’s bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh!” but Eve retorted, “I may be your rib BUT [neck roll] you ain’t got nothing, you ain’t worth nothing AND you got a big hole in your chest. Eew!”? Even a Godly man is not made complete and relationship ready until the rib comes and prompts him to WANT TO BE COMPLETED.

Your word, ladies, should line up with the Godly womanhood you profess to walk in. Raising your hands in worship and shedding tears of joy on Sundays means nothing if you don’t sacrifice your pride and walk in humility and humbleness towards your fellow brethren Monday through Saturday. He may not be your potential mate but he is DEFINITELY your brother or potential brother in Christ.

Act like it.

Speak like it.

PROVERBS 18:21 (GNT)

21 What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words.