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This is dedicated to some very special young ladies (Arica, Jessica, Fayettra, Jai, Arianna, Netanya, Malaija, Cheryl) in my life. I want young women to learn from some of my mistakes without having to go through what I went through to “get it”. Just think of what I’m saying as a cheat sheet…life is always gonna give you a test. If you already have some of the correct answers, that’s one less quiz you don’t have to fail.
(It’s true) Look at a man’s shoes. If he doesn’t buy and take care of good shoes, he won’t take care of you.
The problems, pains and false promises of the past are just that: PAST. Stop trying to recreate a different outcome from a time that cannot change.
Stop letting people live in your head rent free. They ain’t one bit thinking about you. They ain’t gonna say I’m sorry. They ain’t gonna pay you back. But all you do is sit and stew in that mess…humph. Baby, do yourself a favor and evict them from your mind and free that mental space for greater thoughts.
God’s way of sexuality is the only way you will keep your sanity. One of three things (or a combination thereof) is a possibility when you have sex outside of marriage: you can get pregnant; you will get emotionally involved no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise; you may get a sexually transmitted disease. For certain, you just made an ungodly soul tie. Ask yourself “If Jesus was in the room with us right now, would He be pleased with our actions?” And “if I get pregnant by him would I want him to be in my life as a co-parent?” And “is it worth me having a piece of him for a few minutes but having to carry his spirit in me for possibly a lifetime?” REAL TALK
Trust Him, God is more than capable of repaying your enemies. Trust Him.
If you’ve already messed up your credit score, make a decision to fix it by doing what you need to do now so it won’t follow you the rest of your life. If a parent or adult did it to you before you were 18, find out if it can be taken off your report. If you did it, own up to it and fix it. Be fiscally responsible.
Eat healthy now. Either way you are going to pay: good, clean food upfront or large medical bills later. Your choice.
Status is not the same thing as class.
Listen to people when they tell you who they are. They are revealing their intentions towards you by their mouth AND their actions. If they don’t line up…bounce.
STOP SAYING I’M SORRY ALL THE TIME. If you must apologize, then do so but stop taking blame for the negative actions of others.
Don’t be that person who doesn’t want to “hurt their feelings” but will allow them to hurt you or your child(ren).
Check your idols and icons. Make sure they are not double minded. Just because they say “I thank god”… doesn’t mean they are following Jesus, the True and Living God.
Express yourself with grace and conviction. You don’t have to show “attitude” in order to get your point across.
Manners and presentable attire will take you into wealthy places rich people can’t afford.
“Honor thy mother and father” is not the same thing as “Accept their abusive and toxic behavior” towards you. Sometimes the best way to maintain that honor is to walk away from and pray for them.
G E T O V E R IT. God never told you life would be fair. He said He would never leave you. He said nothing would separate you from His love. But He never said life would be fair. Reconcile that now, so you won’t be bitter later.
That’s enough for now. I love you Global Girls all over the world. I’m proud of you and the young women of distinction you are becoming. Take It to the next level. Be the best woman GOD wants you to be.
Older sisters, if you want a young lady to read this or have your own “cheat sheet to the test of life” advice, please send this blog to them and add your wisdom to the comments below.
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